Kindness begins with ourselves. Do you think you could take up the challenge of being kind to yourself for 365 days? Most of us flog ourselves for not doing this or that. We berate ourselves internally for not achieving this or that. We punish ourselves by too much food or not enough. Western society is the only group of people that have self awareness that turn that awareness against ourselves!! In the East there is compassion of the self, far more than we allow ourselves here in the West.
We are all in this together. Be compassionate, gentle and humorous with yourself. When you hear someone berating themselves, remind them of the need to be compassionate towards themselves. Only then will you be changing old stuck patterns that are shared by the human race. Compassion for others begins with kindness to ourselves.
Pushing has always been the way we get things done. Every time we hold ourselves back from indiscriminately pushing, we experience the unsettling openness of being right here and now. We become reception to pleasure, nourishment, connection with others and connection to ourselves.
Every time you fight the urge to push, in that second, you can transform your life. Be gentle, be kind to yourself. Think about what you need; is it sleep? nourishing food?, connection with a friend or time alone?.
Being kind means paying attention to your body, tune into tension, anxiety or whatever is it you need to feel good in that moment. Take a few deep breaths into your belly. Ask yourself if you have any options right now that sound more appealing than pushing yourself harder. If you have an answer, follow that!
Self-kindness is taking all those actions, all those reactions and applying them to yourself just as readily as you offer them to others. Self-kindness also leads to self-acceptance. When we lose the need to denigrate or belittle ourselves, we open ourselves up to a more expansive way of experiencing life.